What is Love?
Though I am a free – thinker, but I do agree full-heartedly with what is stated in the Bible (I Corinthians 13:4-8):
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking.
It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
Marriage, on the other hand, is:
- Living with another person in an intimate manner.
- Being attentive to and caring for another person’s needs.
- Contributing to and helping in the making of a more fulfilling life.
- Sharing the responsibilities and sacrifices involved in establishing a family.
When a marriage works, it can be a satisfying and fulfilling aspect of adult life.
But being in love and wanting a successful marriage are just not enough. Couples will have to discuss and make joint decision on issues like:
- Accommodation: where and with whom will you live?
- Household responsibilities: how will these chores be managed?
- Finances and expenditures: how do you make decisions together?
- In-laws: how do you adjust to each other’s families?
- Children: when to start a family and how to raise children?
All these and more are what it takes to really share your life with someone in a meaningful way, for… Marriage is a commitment to another person.
I fully know you truly love your chosen partner and want to be part of that person’s life. I also understand that you are fully prepared to make a lifelong commitment with someone you care very much for.
But, how well do you know the person you intend to marry? Furthermore, people do change and so will you and your partner. The romantic love the couples bring into marriage may diminish through the years and the depth of the feelings of love may also change. How prepared are you for the changes that will come?
My apology if the above sounds pessimistic, though it is the fact of life.
The good news is that, through the analysis of bazi chart systematically, we are able to tell the personality of your spouse, his / her relationship with your parents, children as well as the relationship with you.
The question is, then, ‘how can we decode it from our bazi chart’?
As a guide, you may want to look at : -
- the favorability of the element in the spouse palace (ie the Day Branch); &
- the favorability of spouse star
More guidelines ….
- If both are favourable, the marriages would be blissful;
- If both are unfavourable, the marriages would be challenging;
- If there is a presence of clashes, the marriages might be unstable;
- If the combination takes place, further examine to the resultant element is needed before drawing any conclusion.
Before I end the session, it is interesting to find out Albert Einstein’s philosophy of ‘LOVE’ from one of his most famous quotes:-
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.
Similarly, I would like to state that
The presence of so-called ‘negative energy’ in the bazi chart is not responsible for an unhappy ending of any relationship and marriages.
Why is that so?
The following statement by Barbara De Angelis summed up everything perfectly :-
If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself.
Real love is more than a feeling.
Real love is a commitment by both parties in the relationship
Do not let your marriage fail.
Keep the passion burning.
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